February 16, 2012
"Sponsorship"
The relationship between a newcomer and a sponsor provides an amazing amount of benefit to both people. The newcomer gets the benefit of experience and someone to guide them through unknown waters and the sponsor gets to be reminded of what their early recovery was like. Often, the sponsor/sponsee relationship is the first chance either member gets to experience intimacy in a non-sexual way.
Taking on either role is a big decision.
The sponsee has to exhibit some level of humility in declaring that s/he can't do it alone. Picking up the phone to call another member can be daunting for a newcomer, so actually asking someone to sponsor them could be a huge step in recovery.
The sponsor has a big role as well. From trying to separate SLAA issues from issues a profession should deal with, or maintaining the relationship as one providing experience, strength and hope, as opposed to a co-dependent, or disciplinarian.
As both a sponsee and a sponsor in SLAA, I got wise advice from someone who walked in my shoes before. He said, "I know I'm a successful sponsor, because I'm still sober." This comment put into perspective both what I expect from my sponsor as well as easing the worries of sponsoring others. It also did for me what many of the steps and traditions of our program did, which was to remind me that my sobriety comes first.
"Sponsorship"
The relationship between a newcomer and a sponsor provides an amazing amount of benefit to both people. The newcomer gets the benefit of experience and someone to guide them through unknown waters and the sponsor gets to be reminded of what their early recovery was like. Often, the sponsor/sponsee relationship is the first chance either member gets to experience intimacy in a non-sexual way.
Taking on either role is a big decision.
The sponsee has to exhibit some level of humility in declaring that s/he can't do it alone. Picking up the phone to call another member can be daunting for a newcomer, so actually asking someone to sponsor them could be a huge step in recovery.
The sponsor has a big role as well. From trying to separate SLAA issues from issues a profession should deal with, or maintaining the relationship as one providing experience, strength and hope, as opposed to a co-dependent, or disciplinarian.
As both a sponsee and a sponsor in SLAA, I got wise advice from someone who walked in my shoes before. He said, "I know I'm a successful sponsor, because I'm still sober." This comment put into perspective both what I expect from my sponsor as well as easing the worries of sponsoring others. It also did for me what many of the steps and traditions of our program did, which was to remind me that my sobriety comes first.
February 9, 2012
"Dishonesty to Honesty"
Maintaining the lies and secrets of my addiction became incredibly complex and hard to keep track of. "Where did I tell people I was last Tuesday night after work?" "How did I introduce my current acting out partner when we bumped into people I knew?" "Did I remember to delete the cache on my home computer?" "What on-line persona did I present to the current person I'm chatting with last time we chatted?"
Many of us became incredibly talented at crafting a lie...with planning if we had the time...but also right on the spot in case we were confronted unexpectedly.
We got so good at lying, in fact, that the lies started to be used in all areas of our lives. It became easier to lie to ourselves about our ability to control our as-yet-undiagnosed disease. It became easier to explain late tasks at work with a lie. Even when asked a simple question like "Did you get the car filled with gas?", our immediate response was whatever lie we thought the person asking wanted to hear.
A common newcomer story in SLAA rooms is the member who's first impulse is to lie, even when I lie is completely unnecessary.
Having a safe place where we can truly "get honest," whether it be in a meeting or with a sponsor, gives us the ability to start unraveling the tangle of lies. It was amazing to me the burden these lies were in my life, and the simple choice of telling the truth became incredibly freeing.
With every day of sobriety, I had another day I didn't have to cover up and hide and make up a story about where I'd been or what I'd done. When my partner shows up unexpectedly while I'm on my computer, I don't need to hide anything or justify what I've been doing. And I never need to worry again about my child somehow finding a site I had recently been on.
Yes, getting sober is hard work, but so is maintaining an addiction. I'd much prefer the hard choices of getting sober over the more difficult task of keeping up lies.
"Dishonesty to Honesty"
Maintaining the lies and secrets of my addiction became incredibly complex and hard to keep track of. "Where did I tell people I was last Tuesday night after work?" "How did I introduce my current acting out partner when we bumped into people I knew?" "Did I remember to delete the cache on my home computer?" "What on-line persona did I present to the current person I'm chatting with last time we chatted?"
Many of us became incredibly talented at crafting a lie...with planning if we had the time...but also right on the spot in case we were confronted unexpectedly.
We got so good at lying, in fact, that the lies started to be used in all areas of our lives. It became easier to lie to ourselves about our ability to control our as-yet-undiagnosed disease. It became easier to explain late tasks at work with a lie. Even when asked a simple question like "Did you get the car filled with gas?", our immediate response was whatever lie we thought the person asking wanted to hear.
A common newcomer story in SLAA rooms is the member who's first impulse is to lie, even when I lie is completely unnecessary.
Having a safe place where we can truly "get honest," whether it be in a meeting or with a sponsor, gives us the ability to start unraveling the tangle of lies. It was amazing to me the burden these lies were in my life, and the simple choice of telling the truth became incredibly freeing.
With every day of sobriety, I had another day I didn't have to cover up and hide and make up a story about where I'd been or what I'd done. When my partner shows up unexpectedly while I'm on my computer, I don't need to hide anything or justify what I've been doing. And I never need to worry again about my child somehow finding a site I had recently been on.
Yes, getting sober is hard work, but so is maintaining an addiction. I'd much prefer the hard choices of getting sober over the more difficult task of keeping up lies.
February 2, 2012
"Morality and Disease"
Many newcomers to SLAA are deeply ashamed of their acting out. For some of them, the shame helps keep them sober by reminding them that there are consequences to acting out. But for many, shame has become a long-standing companion...one that sometimes keeps us stuck in a self-destructive pattern of feeling badly about ourselves, and craving some way of medicating those feelings.
Realizing that sex and love addiction is a disease that requires treatment, can sometimes help SLAA's to get past the shame of their acting out. It doesn't mean we don't have to take responsibility for what we've done, but it takes away the burden of feeling morally bad. While some of our actions might have been morally or ethically wrong to us, it didn't necessarily mean that we were morally wrong. Often, looking back at our acting out makes us realize just how desperate we were to medicate our feelings. So desperate, that sometimes we strayed far from our personal idea of integrity and morals.
The choices we make in sobriety help move us back to that place of feeling good about ourselves. We can again start to take pride in our ability to do the right thing and make the sober choice.
I particularly try to remember this when I find myself judging someone's behavior on a moral basis. If I find myself thinking that someone's behavior is "bad", I try to remember to re-frame the way I see it, as the person making decisions that aren't helping his sobriety instead. Adding more shame to a person already struggling under the burden of past shame rarely helps them get and stay sober.
"Morality and Disease"
Many newcomers to SLAA are deeply ashamed of their acting out. For some of them, the shame helps keep them sober by reminding them that there are consequences to acting out. But for many, shame has become a long-standing companion...one that sometimes keeps us stuck in a self-destructive pattern of feeling badly about ourselves, and craving some way of medicating those feelings.
Realizing that sex and love addiction is a disease that requires treatment, can sometimes help SLAA's to get past the shame of their acting out. It doesn't mean we don't have to take responsibility for what we've done, but it takes away the burden of feeling morally bad. While some of our actions might have been morally or ethically wrong to us, it didn't necessarily mean that we were morally wrong. Often, looking back at our acting out makes us realize just how desperate we were to medicate our feelings. So desperate, that sometimes we strayed far from our personal idea of integrity and morals.
The choices we make in sobriety help move us back to that place of feeling good about ourselves. We can again start to take pride in our ability to do the right thing and make the sober choice.
I particularly try to remember this when I find myself judging someone's behavior on a moral basis. If I find myself thinking that someone's behavior is "bad", I try to remember to re-frame the way I see it, as the person making decisions that aren't helping his sobriety instead. Adding more shame to a person already struggling under the burden of past shame rarely helps them get and stay sober.
_January 26, 2012
"And Then What?"
When you were acting out, did you ever have the experience of having a triggering thought, and the next thing you knew, you were regretting the shame of having acted out again?
I can't tell you how many times, despite adamant resolve not to, I would almost hypnotically walk through the process of acting out, with seemingly no control or ability to stop myself. I'd be leaving the office thinking I should probably leave my laptop in the office, and then I'd have a brief recollection of some euphoric acting out with my computer, and then it was all downhill and my ability to not take my computer home, go on-line, access pornography, chat with acting out partners, was completely gone. I was powerless.
The miracle of my time in SLAA is that now I have the ability to insert small decision points at each stage of the downhill slide, and I'm given multiple opportunities to make a sober decision instead of acting out.
One of the things I often ask myself is, "And then what?"
As an example, an attractive person will flirt with me on my walk home and I'll have the urge to act out. By asking "And then what?" I can short-circuit the uncontrollable urge, and realize this path I'm considering is one that will only bring me shame and regret.
Consistently choosing the sober option...when that option is available to me, I am slowly reprogramming my actions to stay sober one day at a time.
"And Then What?"
When you were acting out, did you ever have the experience of having a triggering thought, and the next thing you knew, you were regretting the shame of having acted out again?
I can't tell you how many times, despite adamant resolve not to, I would almost hypnotically walk through the process of acting out, with seemingly no control or ability to stop myself. I'd be leaving the office thinking I should probably leave my laptop in the office, and then I'd have a brief recollection of some euphoric acting out with my computer, and then it was all downhill and my ability to not take my computer home, go on-line, access pornography, chat with acting out partners, was completely gone. I was powerless.
The miracle of my time in SLAA is that now I have the ability to insert small decision points at each stage of the downhill slide, and I'm given multiple opportunities to make a sober decision instead of acting out.
One of the things I often ask myself is, "And then what?"
As an example, an attractive person will flirt with me on my walk home and I'll have the urge to act out. By asking "And then what?" I can short-circuit the uncontrollable urge, and realize this path I'm considering is one that will only bring me shame and regret.
Consistently choosing the sober option...when that option is available to me, I am slowly reprogramming my actions to stay sober one day at a time.
_January 19, 2012
"Step 12 Behavior"
As my acting out spiraled out of control, and the feeling of euphoria and intoxication became more and more difficult to obtain, my life started to become dismal and desperate. Relying too much on the buzz I got from acting out, I could only pursue more and more drastic ways of attaining it.
Who would have believed that the depths of despair that this downward cycle of addiction brought me, might actually prove useful in recovery?
Sharing my story of addiction and detailing how by abstaining from bottom line behaviors and then working toward sobriety in all areas of my life, has become a way of doing 12th step work for me. Sharing my "experience, strength and hope" can help a newcomer or even a long-time member who might be struggling.
Never underestimate the power that your story can have on another member of SLAA. Sometimes the more extreme your acting out was, the more hope you can provide to someone looking for a way of breaking the cycle of addiction.
Combining a successful story of recovery, with a warm welcome to a newcomer can go a long way toward helping encourage someone to pursue sobriety. Knowing that 12th step work also helps me stay sober is even more of a bonus.
"Step 12 Behavior"
As my acting out spiraled out of control, and the feeling of euphoria and intoxication became more and more difficult to obtain, my life started to become dismal and desperate. Relying too much on the buzz I got from acting out, I could only pursue more and more drastic ways of attaining it.
Who would have believed that the depths of despair that this downward cycle of addiction brought me, might actually prove useful in recovery?
Sharing my story of addiction and detailing how by abstaining from bottom line behaviors and then working toward sobriety in all areas of my life, has become a way of doing 12th step work for me. Sharing my "experience, strength and hope" can help a newcomer or even a long-time member who might be struggling.
Never underestimate the power that your story can have on another member of SLAA. Sometimes the more extreme your acting out was, the more hope you can provide to someone looking for a way of breaking the cycle of addiction.
Combining a successful story of recovery, with a warm welcome to a newcomer can go a long way toward helping encourage someone to pursue sobriety. Knowing that 12th step work also helps me stay sober is even more of a bonus.
January 12, 2012
"Gratitude"
Being thankful for your sobriety is a great way of both acknowledging the progress you've made and having some true humility about how you've been able to stay sober.
I don't personally know anyone that has gotten sober in SLAA by themselves.
A common expression I have heard often at meetings is, "My sick brain can't cure my sick brain?" So I often thank the members at an SLAA meeting for helping me stay sober or for allowing me to experience intimacy in a safe, non-sexual way. My daily praying is often thanks to my higher power for having given me another daily reprieve from the obsession of this addiction. And of course, my sponsor deserves my undying gratitude for her patience and guidance during an incredibly difficult time. As part of a daily journaling exercise, I will often list the top five things for which I'm grateful. It's a great way to start the day.
Giving thanks costs me nothing except some arrogance sometimes, which is a currency I'm glad to be rid of. It also allows me to remember that my sobriety rests squarely on the shoulders of those who came before me in SLAA and the loving guidance of a higher power.
Gratitude helps me remember to value all that I've gotten back in sobriety. How could I not be grateful for getting back my life?
"Gratitude"
Being thankful for your sobriety is a great way of both acknowledging the progress you've made and having some true humility about how you've been able to stay sober.
I don't personally know anyone that has gotten sober in SLAA by themselves.
A common expression I have heard often at meetings is, "My sick brain can't cure my sick brain?" So I often thank the members at an SLAA meeting for helping me stay sober or for allowing me to experience intimacy in a safe, non-sexual way. My daily praying is often thanks to my higher power for having given me another daily reprieve from the obsession of this addiction. And of course, my sponsor deserves my undying gratitude for her patience and guidance during an incredibly difficult time. As part of a daily journaling exercise, I will often list the top five things for which I'm grateful. It's a great way to start the day.
Giving thanks costs me nothing except some arrogance sometimes, which is a currency I'm glad to be rid of. It also allows me to remember that my sobriety rests squarely on the shoulders of those who came before me in SLAA and the loving guidance of a higher power.
Gratitude helps me remember to value all that I've gotten back in sobriety. How could I not be grateful for getting back my life?
_January 5, 2012
"People, Places and Things"
What were some of the things you had to give up when you first started abstaining from bottom line behaviors?
Things
Having previously reviewed "People" and "Places", it appears that "Things are also something we focus on when sobriety takes top priority in our lives. There were certain things that I had to get rid of to keep myself safe and sober.
Could I continue to bring my work laptop back to my hotel room when I traveled for work? Could I have a computer at all in my home? Was blocking software something I needed to use to eliminate risk? Pornography was a big part in feeding the disease for many of us. On-line chat rooms were a source of acting out partners for many of us. The computer has become a big "Thing" to take into consideration in a recovering sex and love addict's life.
I also looked at how food and alcohol affected my ability to assess whether I was making a sober decision or unhealthy choices. Did I want overeating to take up where my sexual/romantic acting out left off? Did having a drink negatively influence my ability to say no to a possible acting out partner?
I also had to seriously consider what movies I could see? What television shows I could watch? I even considered the possibility of having a television-free home, but found I could safely stay sober with one in the house. But putting "first things first," I would have eliminated the television if keeping it meant a source of culling intrigue.
Using any ways possible to make sober decisions uncomplicated was a necessary component of my getting and staying sober. Looking at People, Places and Things from the perspective of making healthy choices made early sobriety a little less complicated.
"People, Places and Things"
What were some of the things you had to give up when you first started abstaining from bottom line behaviors?
Things
Having previously reviewed "People" and "Places", it appears that "Things are also something we focus on when sobriety takes top priority in our lives. There were certain things that I had to get rid of to keep myself safe and sober.
Could I continue to bring my work laptop back to my hotel room when I traveled for work? Could I have a computer at all in my home? Was blocking software something I needed to use to eliminate risk? Pornography was a big part in feeding the disease for many of us. On-line chat rooms were a source of acting out partners for many of us. The computer has become a big "Thing" to take into consideration in a recovering sex and love addict's life.
I also looked at how food and alcohol affected my ability to assess whether I was making a sober decision or unhealthy choices. Did I want overeating to take up where my sexual/romantic acting out left off? Did having a drink negatively influence my ability to say no to a possible acting out partner?
I also had to seriously consider what movies I could see? What television shows I could watch? I even considered the possibility of having a television-free home, but found I could safely stay sober with one in the house. But putting "first things first," I would have eliminated the television if keeping it meant a source of culling intrigue.
Using any ways possible to make sober decisions uncomplicated was a necessary component of my getting and staying sober. Looking at People, Places and Things from the perspective of making healthy choices made early sobriety a little less complicated.
_December 29, 2011
"People, Places and Things"
Certain places that I frequented during my addiction had to be strictly avoided as a way of safeguarding my ongoing recovery. Even places that might just be a trigger were added to my list of places to avoid.
Places
There were some obvious places I could no longer go. Adult book stores, bath-houses, and other places where sexual activity was always available. There were some additional places that were simply triggers for me in acting out.
Re-routing my drive home to avoid a particularly triggering billboard. Being on guard so that my addict didn't convince me that the route past the house of an old boyfriend was the fastest way to get somewhere or avoiding the convenience store where I had flirted with the cashier, and even checking in with my sponsor to make sure certain SLAA meetings wouldn't be too triggering for me were all decisions I had to make on an ongoing basis when I got serious about my recovery.
When I put sobriety first, I had to always ask myself questions such as:
At the same time, I had to make sure there were places where I knew I could go that would be safe for me. SLAA meetings and social events or retreats organized by recovering Sex and Love addicts provided a good starting point. From there, I was able to grow the number of places where I could go and not be triggered to act out.
"People, Places and Things"
Certain places that I frequented during my addiction had to be strictly avoided as a way of safeguarding my ongoing recovery. Even places that might just be a trigger were added to my list of places to avoid.
Places
There were some obvious places I could no longer go. Adult book stores, bath-houses, and other places where sexual activity was always available. There were some additional places that were simply triggers for me in acting out.
Re-routing my drive home to avoid a particularly triggering billboard. Being on guard so that my addict didn't convince me that the route past the house of an old boyfriend was the fastest way to get somewhere or avoiding the convenience store where I had flirted with the cashier, and even checking in with my sponsor to make sure certain SLAA meetings wouldn't be too triggering for me were all decisions I had to make on an ongoing basis when I got serious about my recovery.
When I put sobriety first, I had to always ask myself questions such as:
- Is the gym a healthy place for me to go?
- Do I need to change the store where I buy my groceries?
- Should I ask a program friend to join me at a movie, or is it okay to go to the theater by myself today?
- Am I sober enough to handle being at my mom's house for a picnic with family?
- Should I ask my sponsor if I can check in before and after an after-work celebration with co-workers to make sure I stay sober?
At the same time, I had to make sure there were places where I knew I could go that would be safe for me. SLAA meetings and social events or retreats organized by recovering Sex and Love addicts provided a good starting point. From there, I was able to grow the number of places where I could go and not be triggered to act out.
_December 22, 2011
"People, Places and Things"
Beginning to abstain from those activities that I could no longer control in my addiction required me to set certain boundaries to help keep me safe and as far away from the temptation to act out as I could.
People
I had to definitely break off ties with certain people. Some were easy...like a recovering alcoholic, I found that some of my "friends" were just the equivalent of bar buddies. As soon as I stopped showing up in places where my acting out occurred, they no longer had any need of my friendship. Those people fell out of my life effortlessly.
Others were a bit more difficult to avoid.
Acting out partners who had become my sole source of emotional support had to be replaced by trusted program people, including a sponsor.
Co-workers who were involved in my acting out had to be avoided in any way I could...parking in a different location, requesting a transfer to a different department, changing jobs or just stopping any interactions with them.
Community members, neighbors or even employees of my local grocery store were also sometimes difficult to avoid. Changing habits to avoid people who were dangerous to my sobriety seemed like I was uprooting many aspects of my life.
But putting sobriety as my primary priority, made those decisions to change somewhat easier.
"People, Places and Things"
Beginning to abstain from those activities that I could no longer control in my addiction required me to set certain boundaries to help keep me safe and as far away from the temptation to act out as I could.
People
I had to definitely break off ties with certain people. Some were easy...like a recovering alcoholic, I found that some of my "friends" were just the equivalent of bar buddies. As soon as I stopped showing up in places where my acting out occurred, they no longer had any need of my friendship. Those people fell out of my life effortlessly.
Others were a bit more difficult to avoid.
Acting out partners who had become my sole source of emotional support had to be replaced by trusted program people, including a sponsor.
Co-workers who were involved in my acting out had to be avoided in any way I could...parking in a different location, requesting a transfer to a different department, changing jobs or just stopping any interactions with them.
Community members, neighbors or even employees of my local grocery store were also sometimes difficult to avoid. Changing habits to avoid people who were dangerous to my sobriety seemed like I was uprooting many aspects of my life.
But putting sobriety as my primary priority, made those decisions to change somewhat easier.
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December 15, 2011
"Progress, Not Perfection"
As addicts, we sometime focus only on the areas where we work to do.
Balancing your recovery with both vigilance against the addiction and acknowledging yourself for progress that you've made can be important to long-term sobriety.
Have you:
Congratulations on your progress!
December 15, 2011
"Progress, Not Perfection"
As addicts, we sometime focus only on the areas where we work to do.
Balancing your recovery with both vigilance against the addiction and acknowledging yourself for progress that you've made can be important to long-term sobriety.
Have you:
- Helped introduce someone to our program?
- Made amends to a particularly important person?
- Done service in the program?
- Re-established trust in a relationship with someone in your life?
- Acknowledged the contribution someone in program has made to your life?
- Sponsored someone in the program?
- Established daily times of prayer and meditation?
- Asked for help in an area where you are powerless?
- Had the urge to act out, and stayed sober anyway?
- Reconciled past issues?
- Completed your fourth step?
- Read the SLAA big book?
- Found ways of being serene in times of solitude?
- Written regularly in a recovery journal?
- Been more present to someone because of your sobriety?
- Became willing to address other areas of obsessive/compulsive behaviors in your life?
- _______________________________________________ (add your own here)?
Congratulations on your progress!
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December 8, 2011
"Joy, Satisfaction, Serenity"
It's often occurred to me that recovery from sex addiction enables me to experience feelings that weren't possible during my active addiction.
While I had instances of euphoria as part of my acting out, I wasn't able to experience real joy.
Smug arrogance or superiority in my acting out days was replaced by a sense of deep satisfaction.
And though there were times during my active addiction where life wasn't completely frenetic, only in recovery have I been able to experience a sense of serenity.
I've found that even some of the less positive emotions have gotten better in sobriety.
Getting to experience feelings like sadness or grief, has been a far more real experience for me than the shame and despair I experienced regularly before SLAA.
To paraphrase a popular bumper sticker about fishing, "Even a bad day of true feelings is better than a day trying desperately to suppress all feelings."
"Joy, Satisfaction, Serenity"
It's often occurred to me that recovery from sex addiction enables me to experience feelings that weren't possible during my active addiction.
While I had instances of euphoria as part of my acting out, I wasn't able to experience real joy.
Smug arrogance or superiority in my acting out days was replaced by a sense of deep satisfaction.
And though there were times during my active addiction where life wasn't completely frenetic, only in recovery have I been able to experience a sense of serenity.
I've found that even some of the less positive emotions have gotten better in sobriety.
Getting to experience feelings like sadness or grief, has been a far more real experience for me than the shame and despair I experienced regularly before SLAA.
To paraphrase a popular bumper sticker about fishing, "Even a bad day of true feelings is better than a day trying desperately to suppress all feelings."
December 1, 2011
"Meditation"
Many of the members of SLAA seem to incorporate as many of the tools of our program as they can to help them stay sober, but some seem stymied when it comes to meditation.
What is Meditation?
Initially, someone described meditation in this way:
"Prayer is when you speak to your higher power, meditation is when you listen."
My favorite dictionary definition is:
" To think or reflect, especially in a calm and deliberate manner."
To many, the idea of meditation is very much like their ideas of a higher power in that personal ideas of what meditation is can be very different between one member and another.
"I've Tried - I Can't Meditate"
Many of the folks who try to meditate, have too active a mind, and before they know it, they're thinking about work, or something they forgot to put on their shopping list, or even harder, start obsessing on acting out in the addiction.
A pastor at a friend's church once said, "You meditate all the time...every time you worry about something or concerns of the day keep you awake at night, you meditate on those issue...sometimes to the point of obsession."
Turning those worries or concerns into a time to sit quietly and focus on a single thought, such as "gratitude" or asking a single question to focus your meditation, such as "How do I perceive love?" are all ways of meditating.
Many successful members of our program find it helpful to have set times for both prayer and meditation. Says one member, "I pray in the morning and ask for another day of reprieve from this disease, and I meditate at night, right before I fall asleep, focusing on one aspect of my recovery, and letting the rest of my mind re-organize itself before I have a restful sleep."
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